refined

(used of persons and their behavior) cultivated and genteel; "she was delicate and refined and unused to hardship"; "refined people with refined taste"

freed from impurities by processing; "refined sugar"; "refined oil"; "to gild refined gold"- Shakespeare

showing a high degree of refinement and the assurance that comes from wide social experience; "his polished manner"; "maintained an urbane tone in his letters"

suggesting taste, ease, and wealth

free from what is tawdry or unbecoming; "a neat style"; "a neat set of rules"; "she hated to have her neat plans upset"